There is something that is going on with my friend and I was wondering, if it was your friend, or a person you know, how would you react/feel about it? I'll explain the situation, and then you can comment on what you would say to her/do.
Well, first of all my friend is 16, 17 next week. And her and her boyfriend (who is 20) have decided to have a baby. They have talked about it for a while now and thought everything through, literally everything. They know it'll be hard, they know it'll be a lot of money, they don't need people telling them that "it's going to be a tough time", they know. Her boyfriend can easily come live with her and her parents (who are perfectly happy with that) and who can get a well paying job, that is close by. They will be able to afford everything the baby needs. My friend is not "throwing her life away", due to problems she has not been able to go to college because of all the people there and she has social anxiety, paranoia, ect. so she is not able to further her education as of yet. As she see's it, she will not be able to until she is an adult, and around other mature, grown up people. Now, do not misunderstand and think that she is doing it just for something to do until then. She does truly want a baby. Also, her parents are not disapproving of this, her mother is not at least. They trust the boyfriend to be a great father, and that their daughter is mature enough to handle a baby.
That is how she has explained the situation to me.
Now, this is how I handled it. I, for one, asked her questions about how she planned to do this, how to afford for the baby ect. She told me all of that and it's not a bad plan tbh, they have thought it through very realistically. And even though she is only 17, well nearly, she is very mature. More mature than some adults. She doesn't do what most teenagers (in her area) do, which is just drugs, drinking and generally not caring about education at all or being serious. She is not accidentally getting pregnant, or doing it for attention like someone in her class already has. She is doing it out of pure love for her boyfriend and the fact that they want a child together. She is so mature, that she is thinking of doing what most adults don't when pregnant, which is changing her diet, taking all the right supplements, just doing everything possible to make sure she has a healthy baby. I'm just saying, for a teenager, sometimes she can act very adult. So I'm supporting her on this.
But what would you do? Tell her a firm no and that she's too young? Support her? Or go for the old fashioned, "you've gotta be married first"?
Just comment below with your opinions, thanks ^^